Kandi Burruss and Family In an Instagram post, she wrote: “While everybody was upset about IG being down, I was celebrating my brother with my mom at his grave site.”. 8 juin 2020 · The 44-year-old reality star remembers Patrick for being her family's "mediator," and for helping her solve conflicts with her friends and bandmates, from her teen girl group, Xscape. "If my brother had not passed away, [Xscape] probably would have lasted longer as a group than we did." Article continues below advertisement Source: Instagram.